How To Treat Your Wife
How
do we often talk about Marriage Relationships or even discuss the real
truth of how Marriage should be between both a Husband and Wife? well I
can 10% discuss and talk about it. But we never consider it a true issue
and teaching to talk about, because we always see things more important
to talk about rather than this subject. But today please allow me to
share with you all the below which I felt is very important to talk
about for each and every Man & Woman of God married or not yet. How
many are truly living according the below Truth? Please lets today
examin ourselves in front of God and see how we live and treat our Life
Partners or who will be ourlife Partners. May this message touch many
homes and relationships which are under process to Marriage. I pray
Protection for all the Homes and Families and Reltationships who are
planing for Marriages in Jesus name to be covered under the precious
blood of Christ in Jesus name Amen.
So did you know that there
are Biblical commands for husbands? Husbands have responsibilities to
love and honor their wives. Would you like to be a husband who loves his
wife as Christ loved the Church...
"Love your wife as Christ
loved the Church."(Ephesians 5:25) Risk your life to help or save your
wife. Christ's love for the church is without limits, nothing is held
back. He gave His life for the church - before you loved Him. His love
does not depend on your love for Him. Under God's authority - love your
wife as service--as giving your life to God.
Love your wife in
the same way you love your body and your life."(Ephesians 5:28-33) You
care for your body daily to be as well fed and healthy as possible. You
quickly take care of any needs or desires. Any sexual desire as a
husband should be cared for with your wife. In the same way, care for
your wife's needs and well being. Feel your wife's pain and illness and
rejoice in her health as if it were your own life. A husband must see
his wife's sexual desires and make supreme efforts to meet those needs
too. Basically, her need or desire whether financial, physical,
emotional or spiritual in your relationship must receive your full
effort. Only in this way can you love her and provide for her just as
well as you do for yourself.
"Be considerate as you live with
your wife, with respect ..."(I Peter 3:7) The Bible says that if we
neglect this command, our prayers will be hindered! To be considerate,
quit any irritating habits! When she needs to be helped carrying heavy
items, do it! If she needs time you can take care of the family! Help
your wife with all of your energy, show your love to her with all
consideration. Pray to see where you may be inconsiderate.
"Do
not be harsh with your wife."(Colossians 3:19) When a wife is sensitive
realize that harsh answers, angry looks, irritated tones of voice and
impatience will deeply affect your wife. Rejoice that she is a lady and
isn't like you - remember that she is a precious gift God has given you.
The husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his
wife."(I Corinthians 7:3-5) Please your wife physically. Don't deprive
her of what she needs. Your wife may not tell you that she would like to
climax during times of intimacy. Assume that she would like to orgasm
and work to please her. A wife might become more active in sex if her
desires were being met! Sexual pleasure is something that is given, not
forced or taken.
"And that women may be dressed in simple
clothing, with a quiet and serious air; not with vanity about her hair
and gold or jewels or expensive clothing;"(1 Timothy 2:9) Encourage your
wife to be modest in public and erotic in private with you. A modest
woman is a lady. There is much sin and temptation that results from
women showing too much skin in public. Just think of the pleasure of
knowing that no one sees too much of your wife's legs but you! You will
be shocked at how this one maneuver will increase your feelings of
masculinity and her feelings of femininity.
"Do not be
captivated by other women."(Proverbs 5:20) Finding other women
attractive and looking at them will erode your own view of your wife.
You will be less satisfied with her and she will feel less special to
you. No man can build a habit of glances without subconsciously doing it
in his wife's company. And she will notice. Remember to be captivated
with your wife and no one else. She will feel like the Queen of the
world and you will fall further in love with her.
"Call your
wife 'blessed' and praise her."(Proverbs 31:28-29) Tell her that she is
special and is greater than any other woman on earth. Don't just mention
her physical beauty, but her care for you, her hard work, and her
ladylike attributes. Watch the flower of your wife blossom as you
repeatedly fill her ears with your praises. She longs for those words
and she wants to hear them from you! Of course you don't need pride, but
that does not change the wife's need and longing to be treasured.
"Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body."(Song of Solomon
4:7; 7:1-8) A true lover will make sure that his wife knows that he
finds no flaw in her. God made your wife. God makes no mistakes. If you
find a part of her body flawed, then it is your mind that needs to be
changed. The responsibility upon the man to grow to love and express
love for every part of his wife and also to respectfully and sensually
tell her so. It will not help to criticize her or to be sarcastic. Think
of how good she will feel when both you and she truly believe that you
are enamored with every part of her!
"Honor your marriage; keep
it pure by remaining true to your wife in every way."(Hebrews 13:4)
Jesus says that "lustful looks are adultery."(Matthew 5:28) This is
similar to "because where your treasure is there will your heart be
also..."(Luke 12:34) and vice versa. Do not treasure such lustfulness in
any area of life, but deny it access to you heart. Keep your marriage
pure by training your heart and eyes to be true to your wife. Your
marriage will reap huge benefits if you do! Thank the Lord for beauty
and appreciate it but keep your eye, joy, mind and heart for the wife.
"Be thankful for your wife and realize the favor you have received from
God."(Proverbs 18:22) Just think of how lonely you would be without a
wife. Adam was alone and it wasn't good for him to be alone, so God gave
him a wife. You have a lifetime companion, a friend, and a lover to
enjoy every day. What a blessing! Thank God and pray for her daily. She
is a tremendous "prize" from God.
"Be one flesh with your wife
in every way."(Matthew 19:5) Enjoy life with her as if you were
inseparable, but live your life thoughtfully. Long to be with her like
you did when you first met. Rush home from work to her. Think about her
during the day. Call her every day. Learn as a couple to agree: be like
minded. Enjoy intimacy and sex often. You should have sex as often as is
necessary to meet the desires of whichever spouse has the stronger sex
drive, and as schedules and health permit. Spend time just talking and
sharing the day's events. Show a genuine interest - listening intently -
giving your full attention and eye contact. Your wife is more important
than anything or anyone but Jesus Christ. Be as one with your wife.
"Rejoice in your wife all your life. Let her breasts satisfy you. Be
captivated with her."(Proverbs 5:18-19) No man should look at other
women or pictures of other women when he has a wife on whom he can gaze
daily. A husband should become fully satisfied with his wife's body. No
matter what the size or shape, if a man will let it happen, and ask God
to help him, he can grow to truly find his wife's breasts to be the most
attractive in the world. This is the true spirit of being captivated
with your wife. Such a wife will feel sexy, attractive, and most of all,
ladylike.
Developing the Art of Listening
If relationships with others mean a lot to you (but sometimes they seem to elude you), you'll find this helpful: becoming a beautiful listener.
When someone speaks to you, stop and listen — really listen. This little habit will make our all-too-short lives far richer.
The reason people talk to other people isn't always just to communicate data. It is also to communicate emotion, illicit empathy, and to receive those much needed, "Wows!" When I let my ego drive the conversation, it defeats the purpose of communication — and deflates the person speaking to me.
It's not about you. This conversation is about the other person. Allow her to be in the driver's seat. Don't look rushed. Turn your body in that person's direction and add a smile to your face (unless it's really sad news at which time a more somber look might be appropriate). Maintain good eye contact (this brings to mind the old proverb, "The eyes are the windows to the soul"). Nod your head affirming that your heart is really hearing what the other person is saying.
Become a public relations expert for the teller. In most cases it's wisest not to repeat the other person's story unless you have a clear sense that it would honor him. Instead, bring the person over to another cluster of friends, and say, "You've got to hear Jeff's story!" Jeff will beam. Others will be enlightened. And you will be Jeff 's hero.
Despite what I said above, it is sort of about you. If you become nothing more than a "gimmick listener" you'll only harm yourself and be the worse for it. You will find yourself listening, but not listening. You'll simply be gaming the other person like an animal does its quarry. Become an emotional participant. Learn to live the experiences you listen to vicariously. Learn to, "laugh with those who laugh and cry with those who cry" (Romans 12: 15). Then, my friend, you will be a part of the family of humanity.
Love and blessings to all
Prophetic Voice Ministry Renjith & Jessie
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